This may not be relevant, so apologies in advance. I'm not saying I don't believe ANYTHING this guy had to say. But these days I often cannot tell the difference between dreams and reality. OK. Let's see if I can get through this. This usually surrounds a very traumatic event that happened to me about 15 years ago. My wife committed suicide and her body was never found. She jumped off a bridge and was, apparently, swept out to sea. She left me with a 12 year old daughter to raise and the next few years were full of some anxiety. I had to wait seven years before I could have her declared legally dead and settle the estate, which was locked up in a trust account. Insurance and lawyers got involved and it was a real mess.
I have a recurring dream that she is back and that she really didn't die, but went up to Canada and taught school for years before deciding to return. In the dream, her existence is as real as my dog next to me. It's palpable. My mind tries to wrestle with the issue and I gradually come to realize that I have to deal with this new reality no matter how difficult or weird it will be and that, once again, the fallout is going to be traumatic.
I just have to re-emphasize: It is real, period. Then I wake up. It takes several minutes for me to re-orient and realize it was just a dream. I grasp at anything I can see in the bedroom, realizing that I AM in the new house, not the old one, that my daughter is now a grown and married woman, and that it has been years since all this happened.
I'm not claiming all experiencers are just having dreams. I'm just saying, based on my experience, that it is possible.
Hi, Schuyler. I think you're making an important point here regarding the dream state vs. waking consciousness, a point that in my opinion needs to be more carefully considered than it usually is, especially by people like myself who have experienced these kinds of conscious anomalies.
First of all, thank you for your openness about an event in your life that that must have been traumatic beyond the ability of many of us fully to imagine it. Trauma — both physical and psychological — can leave even the most mentally balanced person in a head space that is so unfamiliar that the very real event actually
feels dreamlike. The flipside of this is also true of course: the process of the mind grappling to integrate such events can so invade our dream state that our dreams may sometimes seem every bit as real as waking consciousness. (I'm reminded that the German word for "dream" is "Traum" from which the word, "trauma," may actually come to us.)
In my case, whatever it was that I experienced as a child concerning apparently non-human beings (and this quite a number of times, by the way) was
so strange beyond my ability to describe it well even today that it invaded my waking consciousness and my dreams back then — and to such a degree that I remain just as haunted by this series of events even today. I've therefore spent more than my share of time in my adult life trying to understand all of this over these past many years.
What happened certainly never
felt like a dream — in fact, it always seemed so real that my normal life as a child appeared rather mundane in comparison. But
could it have been a series of dreams? Possibly. And I must face this possibility, if I am to remain true to myself. Could this have been a byproduct of child sexual abuse and a child's mind struggling to integrate a trauma that it couldn't possibly comprehend in any linear fashion? Again, possibly.
I will tell you this (and then I'll shut up for now
): what this approximates more than anything else I've ever studied in my many years of struggling to solve this personal puzzle is "visionary experience," much like those visionary experiences that have sometimes been reported by mystics and shamans over the past many thousands of years. (And that may be why cave paintings and other kinds of visionary art reflect some images now familiar in UFO lore.) Experiencing this is like entering into another level of consciousness — one that
feels completely and convincingly real, by the way — and one that I honestly wouldn't be a bit surprised one day to discover
is a domain of reality every bit as "real" as "channel normal," the only domain of reality our culture can so far credit as "real." I think the "unconscious" IS real, Schuyler — just "real" in a different way than we're used to thinking of it, for "consciousness" cannot exist without the "unconscious" directly beneath it.
Anyway...
Those are some of my thoughts at this stage of my journey.